The date can be tight at first, but if you don't have what you want for, it will be even painful. Worse, you've got a slight idea of what you're doing, but sometimes you feel too guilty to inquire. In a new Bustle poll, almost 20% of people said that they are individual and dating; their main goal is to find out exactly what they were looking for in a spouse — but that is often easier to say than to do. And it's hard to instantly start to claim your requirements immediately if you're not endorsed.